The Mind of the timid
By: Nashe Orimir
Ever bullied him for his timidness before? Maybe, but have you ever taught on what's going trough his mind? No of course not.
The mind of the timid is a dark place, you might have problems in your mind, experiences and emotions you locked away in your mind, but in the mind of a timid person, it is much worse,
People who are timid are more self-aware then normal people, they made their own fears by being different, they want to be normal, but normal doesn't really exist right? we are all different from one another, that's what makes us normal. But in their cases, they couldn't accept the fact that they are different from other people, that's what gives them their fears and lack of self-confidence.
Timidness is gotten trough experience, ex: getting bullied by your classmates or lack of love by their parents, or maybe trough self-awareness.
Timid people often think that their mistakes lead to shame, that's why they are hesitant to perform. In most cases, It does lead to shame by bullying of their classmates.
But in some cases, It is gained from your own mind, A timid person sometimes make his own fear, by remembering past experiences of shame and imagining your own fear, but in reality, nothing is actually happening, they imagine the feeling of backstabbing and they unconsciously turn that to life.
How to heal them from this state
If you would like to help them get of this torture, here's a guide on how to help them the RIGHT way.- For people who are timid because they are bullied, that is the most hardest to heal. Since the damage is real and it lowers their trust in someone, it also damages their way of thinking. I would recommend a slow process in becoming friends, and a friend who can stand up for him/her until his/her feet goes back up, someone who can stop their bullying, be careful though they might get attached to you or end up liking you, and if you reject them they will have a bigger hole inside their hearts than before.
-For self aware people, who gets their fear from their minds, that is more trickier really. If you make friends with them and have a good time with them, at the end of the day when they are alone, they think of you gossiping about him/her, it hurts as if he/she got stabbed in the back. But if you do it slowly they will think that your just playing with him/her. Like your treating him/her like a toy.
To heal this timid person, he needs a friend who is like him. someone who isn't that popular and thinks normally. This way they can't think of him/her as a backstabber. And if he completely trusts him he can slowly introduce the timid person to the others. That is the most efficient way to heal someone like this.
A special message to those who are hurt, broken and depressed
There are people who healed fully and have good lives now, you can do the same
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